Selfish VS selfless, which one will you let win?

Selfish VS selfless. It is the key to every relationship. Not just with your wife, g/f or friends. Also with work and anyone who you interact with. It is deeper than just those you see all the time as well. Even on the level of an individual person who you will never see again how you treat that interaction determines a lot of how the rest of your day may go.

Being selfless is hard. As humans we naturally tend to want everyone else to do things our way. If we do it a certain way than it must be the best way to go about it. Isn’t it? And this does not even mean that other people are wrong. But when they don’t accomplish goals and tasks the same we do, or would we can become upset.

On a simpler level is our day-to-day interaction with everyone in our sphere of influence. From the driver who wants to change lanes, the lines of traffic merging together leaving a sporting event or the person who you serve at work the level of selfishness we exert is going to have a big effect on our outlook, and attitude. It’s the whole butterfly effect idea. Hopefully when you slow down a bit to let someone in they will do the same and overall the traffic keeps moving (albeit at a reduced pace) instead of becoming stop and go. But being nice to people we won’t see again is almost the easiest thing to do. You won’t see them again. If they slight you it is much easier to brush off.

It’s the long-term relationships where it is so hard to accomplish the goal of selflessness. In family, wife/husband/girl friend/boy friend, co-workers. That is the real challenge in life. It is easy at the start. But than with time we build up resentment. We get butt hurt when we don’t get that same selflessness back. But that’s the real kicker isn’t it? Because at that moment we have switched from being selfless to being selfish. We don’t mean to. We don’t want to, and I think it causes the most problems.

I thought about this a lot last night, and today while working out. I don’t have a perfect answer. It maybe that there just simply is not one. We each must struggle every day to maintain that level of selflessness. Often times this means not saying what we think. The whole concept of being honest has been twisted into an excuse by people to just be an ass. “I’m not being mean. I’m being honest.” they claim in righteous indignation. Well some times, no often times in a relationship you have to judge things and then simple SHUT THE FUCK UP! Not everything needs to be said. Not everything needs to be done your way. Certainly there is a line in the sand that each person must draw for themselves. I am in no way saying we should all be walking doormats for each other. That is never the case. If someone is mistreating you walk away. Run away. No one has the right to mistreat others or should have to be mistreated. But in life, you have to be able to look at the bigger picture and try to see it all put together. Not just the moment you are in. That or go live in a cave by yourself and be a true hermit.

Our government would be a lot better if instead of just saying “it’s for the children” and other mantras of selflessness they actually practiced it.

Our personal lives would be better and so would our professional lives. Change does not happen overnight. But it does not happen by becoming what you want to change either. You have to stand up even if no one but you knows and take action to improve your life and the lives of those around you. Put your own desires aside, think of others. If all of us can do this, even just a bit, and have the goal in mind of always doing it you would see a much different picture each day. It can truly be accomplished without giving up what makes you “you”. It can be done without sacrificing the things you hold dear. True acceptance of others is hard to do but the rewards are great.

Political speech responses-Discuss amongst yourselves

So this is a quick and simple post. I hope to create disscussion with it and actually get some good comments going back and forth from people. So,

The political speech response

Why do we do them?

Who started them?

Do they do anything other than cause bad feelings and arguing?

Are they anything more than bickering and infighting?

Couldn’t we use them for a good purpose instead?

What do you think? Respond below.

Is SNL right that Obama’s accomplished ‘nothing’? – Yahoo! News

Is SNL right that Obama’s accomplished ‘nothing’? – Yahoo! News.

This is a REPRINT. I normally don’t do this but to be honest it pretty much says everything I was thinking of bloggin about so I dont really see a reason to rewrite it.

This weekend “Saturday Night Live” opened with Fred Armisen as President Obama, delivering an address from the Oval Office. Noting up front that he’d failed to secure the 2016 Olympic Games for Chicago, Armisen’s Obama said it was just further proof that his detractors’ fears are unfounded: How could he transform the country into something resembling the former Soviet Union or Nazi Germany when he’s failed to accomplish anything at all? “When you look at my record,” he said, “it’s very clear what I’ve done so far, and that is nothing.”

But are SNL‘s accusations of Obama being a do-nothing president accurate? Let’s run down the list of the nine promises SNL lampooned President Obama for doing “nothing” on to see where he actually stands.

1. Close the American military prison at Guantanamo Bay: In one of his first acts as president, Obama signed an order mandating the close of the notorious lockup by January 2010. On Sunday, White House National Security Adviser James Jones said that he was “hopeful” that the White House would meet that deadline. Several legal and logistical questions remained to be answered, however, including the fate of the remaining detainees.

2. Pull all troops out of Iraq: In February, Obama told congressional leaders that he wanted all troops out of Iraq by August 2010. On June 30th of this year, a large number of troops were pulled out of the country, a move that was understated here in the U.S., but was met by dancing in the streets in some parts of Iraq. At the time of the withdrawal, the American military leadership refused to put a number on how many troops remained, though some have estimated that number remains as high as 124,000.

3. Improve the situation in Afghanistan: In a recent interview with CBS’ “60 Minutes,” General Stanley McChrystal, America’s top commander in Afghanistan, said that things had become “a little worse” than he had originally anticipated in Afghanistan, adding that “the breadth of the violence, the geographic spread of violence, is a little more than I would have gathered.” Wednesday marks the eighth anniversary of the U.S.-led invasion, and last Sunday saw the deadliest single battle for American soldiers in Afghanistan since 2001. The administration is currently divided over how to change course in Afghanistan, weighing McChrystal’s request for 40,000 more troops against other options.

4. Reform the nation’s health care system: This year’s health care reform debate has been one of the more contentious debates in American history. Originally, the president set an August deadline for Congress to pass legislation for him to sign. That obviously didn’t happen. However, on Friday night the Senate Finance Committee finally released its mammoth health care bill, setting the stage for an even more intense national debate with a floor vote potentially coming as early as the middle of this week.

5. Cut down on global warming: Prior to the onset of the raucous health care reform debate, the centerpiece of the Administration’s efforts to stem the increase of global warming, the Cap and Trade bill, was on the legislative fast-track. However, over the weekend Carol Browner, Obama’s global warming czar, said that passage of the bill prior to December’s Copenhagen Climate Change Conference was unlikely.

6. Reform the nation’s immigration policies: In August, President Obama, under intense pressure from supporters for not moving fast enough on the issue, announced that he would have an immigration bill in Congress by the end of the year, though it likely wouldn’t be voted on until 2010. Saying that “demagogues” who “suggest that any form of pathway for legalization for those who are already in the United States is unacceptable” would attempt to obstruct his efforts, the president added, “Am I going to be able to snap my fingers and get this done? No.”

7. Changing the military’s policies on gay soldiers: In his first week in the Oval Office, President Obama announced that his Administration would have to study the “implications for national security” before he could attempt to repeal the present “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy initiated by the Clinton administration in 1993. On Sunday, White House National Security Adviser James Jones reiterated Obama’s commitment to fulfilling this campaign promise, but added that the president has “a lot on his plate” and would get around to addressing the issue at the “right time.”

8. Placing limits on executive powers: In the early days of his presidency, Congressional Quarterly praised Obama for appearing as if he was “rejecting some of Bush’s most expansive executive power claims” in the White House. However, that sentiment quickly evaporated among Obama supporters and opponents, with Salon’s Glenn Greenwald noting in April that the White House had “explicitly claimed to possess the very presidential powers that Bush critics spent years condemning as radical, lawless and authoritarian.”

9. Prosecute those who facilitate torture: In April, President Obama announced that his Administration would not bring charges against those who carried out acts deemed as torture upon U.S. terror detainees, but rather might seek to prosecute the Bush Administration officials who drafted the documents justifying the use of torture as lawful. In August, Attorney General Eric Holder followed through by announcing the appointment of a special prosecutor to investigate whether or not the interrogations of suspected terrorists broke any laws.

So, taking all of this into consideration, are SNL‘s satirical criticisms of President Obama’s do-nothingness valid? Probably not, mainly because, as illustrated by the old adage about how one shouldn’t watch sausage or legislation get made, the process of “change” and getting anything done in Washington is a long and messy one, and Obama is merely nine months into his term as president. But that doesn’t mean that Saturday’s SNL skit was humorless, which, for once, it most definitely was not.

— Brett Michael Dykes is a contributor to the Yahoo! News Blog.

obama health care speech

obama health care speech
Sigh, just kidding. It was so long and so frustrating for me that I quit. It’s not even worth doing. A shit ton of promises that all sound great but no explanation as to how it will all happen. I’m not even sure I give a fuck any more. Oh and all politicians pretty much suck and just try to fuck us and the other side. It’s called the endless campaign. They all do it and until it stops we are all screwed. It is the only thing that Scott McClellan got right in his book What Happened: Inside the Bush White House and Washington’s Culture of Deception. which is a horribly slow and boring book I dont actually suggest it. Maybe on tape to fall asleep to.
Oh well, thats the gist of it so bugger off if you don’t like it.

President Obama’s Healthcare Speech. (Before)

Tonight I plan on watch President Obama’s speech on health-care. Now those of you who know me can properly guess that I did not vote for him. I voted for McCain but don’t really care for him either. I just found him to be the lesser of three evils. I have some thoughts on the whole third party idea that I plan on sharing later this week in a blog as well a quoting an amazing section from the book “days of war nights of love” to you all.

But now back on topic, I am curious to hear what he has to say. I will not be watching it live because my kids to stuff at church to do and I will be taking them so I plan on watching it, writing the after part of this blog and than maybe I will look up some sites and see what people say. I tend to stay away from the big sites or shows because conservative ones tend to be over board with their harsh talk and liberal show are of course the opposite. Anything he says is considered perfect and wonderful. That too is another blog topic that is coming. Why is it that because Obama is a black man he is a God? First black president, yes that is historical, but however that fact alone does not make him a good president. Only time will show that.

But I’m curious if any of you out there plan on watching, or do you plan on not watching on purpose or do you just not really care either way.