Let’s say, “That’s so gay”

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Ok, so you have probably seen the PSA about not saying “That’s gay” or “that’s so gay”. They are right on about how we should stop using it in such a negative way and that it only builds more negative feelings.

Let me present a quick thought to you.

If you Google define:gay you get

  • cheery: bright and pleasant; promoting a feeling of cheer; “a cheery hello”; “a gay sunny room”; “a sunny smile”
  • full of or showing high-spirited merriment; “when hearts were young and gay”; “a poet could not but be gay, in such a jocund company”- Wordsworth; “the jolly crowd at the reunion”; “jolly old Saint Nick”; “a jovial old gentleman”; “have a merry Christmas“; “peals of merry laughter”; “a mirthful …
  • given to social pleasures often including dissipation; “led a gay Bohemian life”; “a gay old rogue with an eye for the ladies”
  • brave: brightly colored and showy; “girls decked out in brave new dresses”; “brave banners flying”; “`braw’ is a Scottish word”; “a dress a bit too gay for her years”; “birds with gay plumage”
  • offering fun and gaiety; “a festive (or festal) occasion”; “gay and exciting night life”; “a merry evening”
  • wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

Now I ask you, is that a bad definition? No it is not. Instead of trying to ignore the word, and yet still have it be negative lets take the word back. Let’s go back to the original definition and make it a good word again.

Let’s say things are “so gay” and let’s do it with a smile, and realize that it is not a bad thing!

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  1. Many words are spelled the same way but their definitions are totally different. We cant stop using the word Bat as an big wooden stick just to be nice to the animal. And then there are many other ways of life that people choose to lead that are still made fun of by terms.

    What a Bitch! … The woman has chosen to live her life being a little less nice than average. Yes, she could pretend that she is not a bitch and be nice all the time but that just is not who she is. Why should a gay person be shown more respect than a bitchy person?

    The term Gay is appropriate in situations of talking trash when the trash talker feels that doing homosexual things is less than appealing. Just because you are disgusted by something it does not mean you have to hate the person that does it.

    My wife is kind of a bitch. This doesn’t make me love her any less or make me wish the term bitch was removed from our collective vocabulary.

    I’m not saying things could never change. They could start using it as an endearing term like black people did with the term nigger. Funny thing is black people still fight that word and the majority of the racist world are black people themselves.

    • Well it is Nigga after all. Or so movies and rap music tell me. However it has not worked has it.

      I agree with the idea that saying Gay to mean offensive and dumb is not right. People don’t like gamers. Should we say that’s so way. However I think instead ignoring things we should take charge of them.

      It is a negative term said only to be negative. I’m not exactly the champion of gay rights, but I like to think of myself as a fair person. In order to protect yourself you have to protect others. It is rude to all your wife a bitch. I’m pretty sure she would agree. Even if she is being one, probably not the best idea. It’s also wrong to slander a person’s sexuality that has nothing to do with you. It’s still hateful and it just creates more hate and close mindedness. You can not like what some one does and not try to control them or be hateful.

      I have said it many times in the past. And I would compare it to a person in their 80s using the term negro, or colored. They don’t mean to be hateful, they were raised in a differentness time. But those times are over, and its we need to get with the times. Update to reality instead of hanging on to old ways out of stubbornness.

      • People may not use gamer as a bad term. But they do use “Nerd” “Geek” “Cracker” “Pot Head” “Idiot” “Stupid” “Asshole” “Prick” “Lazy” “Baldy” “Whitey” and even “Homophobe”. I’m guilty of all of those, do I care when people use the terms? No, not really.

        Fighting them just empowers them. Instead I will use something else in return.

        Yeah, I have pasty pale whit skin. So what?
        Yeah, I enjoy technology. So what?
        Yeah, I have a bald head. So what?
        Yeah, I like to lay around and do nothing. So what?
        Yeah, I have been known to be mean sometimes. So what?
        Yeah, I smoke the occasional drag of weed. So what?
        Yeah, I get uncomfortable around homosexual activity. So what?

        I understand there may be a little more to it with Gay people and the use of the word gay. Props to you for helping fight for the homosexual community, but I just don’t think of people using the term gay as that big of a deal.

        Gay people would like to be treated equal. If we drop the term “gay” then we need to drop everything else also. Granted we would be living in a nicer world then, but it is not going to happen. Of course I’m not saying there is anything wrong with the few(like yourself) doing your part to make the world a better place.

  2. Perfect example of another one that would need to go away if this one did is the term “Retarded”.

    • I think we kinda have the same point but in a different way. I want us to take it back. Not run Dumb PSAs or things like that. Take charge of language but in a good way. The way gangstas have used nigga is a discrase and just shows a lack of intelligence. A person should never be proud of being ghetto and worthless.

      If instead of fighting with people over language we all took steps to be smarter about it than we would end up in a much better place.

      BTW I have been known to say retarded and gay both in a negative way. But as I’ve grown and matured and really looked at myself and at how I would want to be treated I realized I needed to stop. It’s what works for me, and I think a much better solution than trying to control what other people do.

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