Gay marriage. It’s about time we get over it.


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Gay marriage. Once again for the millionth time it’s in the news. But why? Aren’t we over this by now?
Lets look at the arguments.
1. Marriage is sacred. Really? Come on, with all the reality shows where straight people get married, the divorce rate and all those things the idea that heterosexual marriage is sacred and it somehow disgraces it is ridiculous.
2. God is not for it and marriage is based in religion. I’ll be honest and admit I used to think this. BUT, we can not force our religious ideals on others. So when it comes to a pastor doing a gay marriage that is for the pastor and the church body he is a part of to make that call. In other words the individual and then individual group must decide this on their own. We have no right to say others must follow the same religious beliefs or tenants that we do.
3. I (the person saying it) just don’t like gays. (insert your own slur here) This is simple to debunk. Its based only in hate. No real reason for it at all.
4. What else is there? I can’t think of anything.

So what does all this mean? We so often forget that to protect our own rights we have to protect those of others. Even if we don’t agree with them. The key here? As long as it does not hurt anyone, or infringe on some else’s rights. So, do I think it is right to say I can’t pray in public. No. I’m not hurting you. Ignore me, leave me alone, give me basic respect and don’t bother me. And I won’t tell you that you have to pray. You may choose not to. That is fine.

Really this is the same thing. Who is hurt by gay marriage? No one. It should be equal. They should have the same standard of proof and responsibility as straights people. Still have to get divorced if it does not work out, and still get the same benefits as any other straight couple who has taken the proper steps to say “Yes, we love each other and are in a committed relationship with each other.”

I feel there is a big difference between two people living together and two people who are married. By getting married you make it official. You make it harder to just end and harder to just walk away from. You are taking it up to a much more serious level. Any one, gay or straight if they really do love each other should be able to take this public/private/legal step and get married. We can not and should not force consenting adults who are hurting no one, ever, do follow what we think is right, or wrong simple because it is different from our opinion. I don’t want people telling me what I can do in my life and in order to protect my rights I am willing to protect the rights of others. I hope you will too.

5 Comments

  1. Could not have been said any better. I am tired of the cookie cutter image of marriage destroying the happiness of society. I mean really, what are we protecting from Gays? They should have the right to be happy and get married, contribute to the divorce population………or is that just it? If we allow gays to marry is it someway going to make the church look bad, seeing as for the most part all of the homosexual friends I have that are fighting for this right have been with one partner faithfully while I have watched my hetro friends fly through partners……anyway this is just me and my brain spillage let them be happy and get married, or unhappy and divorced one way or the other they should have the god given right as humans on this planet to live as one in the eyes of whatever lord they so choose.

    • Exactly. So often, on both sides of the fence we trample on others in our rush to laude our selves for being so accepting. You have to allow EVERYONE to live their own life in order to be allowed to live yours. Don’t want interference in your life? Well than don’t interfere in other peoples lives.

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  3. That is a very good point, that the pastor and the church should make the call themselves.

    Heres a good quote from Family Guy.
    Mr. Pewterschmidt: Look at my wife! Do you think I love her?
    Lois Griffin: Wait a minute. Are you saying that two straight people who absolutely hate each other have more of a right to be married than gay people who love each other?
    Mrs. Pewterschmidt: Well, that’s what we raised you to believe.

    • Right on. That is exactly the point i was hoping to get across so I’m glad it was somewhat clear. This applies to many areas of life. You don’t have to agree with someone or their beliefs to leave them alone. You can’t force a pastor to do what they don’t think is right, but you also have no right to tell others they can. Why else are we adults other than to be able to do as we chose. And not as others would chose for us.


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